When my narcissist that abused me enters the room the theme song to Jaws starts playing!
Friday, January 31, 2014
Co-dependent people THINK their life is defined by another person. Those of us with a healthy mind know this is soo not true! I'm only enriching my own life and if I'm with someone and their good for me,
Their enhancing mine. I said, if their good for me......
Your a nightmare
Counseling wouldn't even help you
You have co-dependent issues
And you rather ruin your relationship with your children than lose the person your with!
You are sooo mentally unhealthy
It's ALL about you
It always was
Screw everyone else huh???
Ya, that's a healthy mindset
Karma is going to be your biggest bitch
Next to your already ignorant brain
Your just stupid
Someone mentally well would say
"This isn't working for my kids, and they come first!"
That theory you have, " the kids are going to be gone soon"
That's insane, your children are yours for life!
You are soo mentally unhealthy
Your co-dependency has ruined your
Relationship with your own children
They don't even want to be around your significant other!
Get mentally healthy
How dreadful for who your with to know
Your children can't stand her
I wouldn't even want to date someone who's kids didn't like me
I would know it's just not right
But Po-Dunk ignorance is bliss
And watching your stupidity unfold is very entertaining
You should be embarrassed
I'm embarrassed over something's I've done
But I knew I needed to do a change up and fix it
I'm not perfect, but I'm not in denial over my imperfections! I would be the first person to admit them!
Ya, I fugged up, but I'm working on fixing
That's someone who is mentally healthy
PUT YOUR KIDS FIRST!!! NOT YOURSELF!!
Narcissism at its best, ya YOU!!!!
This story is going to infuriate ever hairstylist on the planet ok here we go...
I have an X that tells me verbally abusive statements like this one, "All you are is a loser hairdresser" Ya, really! This person doesn't even have a JOB!!! How about this all you wonderful stylist in the world!
Someone is telling us ALL we are all losers I guess!! We will forgive ignorance and write this off as morons just need to KEEP their mouths shut!! I love being a hairdresser, it's my life. I don't want to Ever do anything else!! This person can shuv it, WE LOVE WHAT WE DO!!!!
I hope this persons hairdresser finds out about this theory the client has and gives this close minded ninny one bad haircut!
Or throws them to the curb. Sorry, I'm not desperate for your money! Lol
Lets discuss this
The other day in the salon my client told me she had an x that was O.C.D. With her.
Listen!! This is a VERY scary thing!
This is not to be taken lightly. When someone is O.C.D. With you it can be down right DANGEROUS!! NOOOO mentally healthy adult acts like this. No one should stalk you, be sooo obsessed their hiring private investigators to find things out about you etc....
Not one of us has to validate our lives to anyone. No one is perfect and we all make mistakes in life. If your not making mistakes your not growing and learning.
O.C.D. Is a dangerous unhealthy game to play. So stop the stalking and get help!
Seriously, please get help. If your sooo happy in your new life you don't need to obsess over someone in your past.
There's your answer, your not happy in your new life!!! Your facade will crumble,
Please get some counseling.
Thursday, January 30, 2014
You have sealed your legacy in my life
Yes, only you are responsible for all this
I shouldered the blame for way to long
When I was taught to release it
It opened a world of happiness
I now stand behind my chair
Just like every other hairdresser
And take pride in what I do
I ask you, " What is it YOU exactly do"
That's what I thought
Good luck with that
I told you I would get the last laugh
You can't help but to feel sorry for the new person.
As deluded as the new supply is, your heart breaks for them. You know the story all too well.
He comes on strong, with flowers and flattery. He wins you over by saying things like, " I've never dated anyone as beautiful as you" or "sex has never been this great"
She can't believe her luck and often tells him so.(I use to say those exact words, how did I get soo lucky. That turned out to be a nitemare!)
This fills him with smugness because he knows he has her right where he wants her.
It's at this point he can drop the pretense
And let his true self out. It is EXHAUSTING for him to pretend to be something he is not, and the sooner he has her hooked the better.
While she is head over heals in love with
The "Image" of a man who doesn't exist
The abusive behavior will start. Perhaps it will be about her appearance. Small jabs will start, "your wearing outfits that are exposing too much of your beautiful body"
" I don't want someone stealing you away from me" but she should be grateful that he still loves you anyway.
He now becomes distance and aloof, she
Becomes lonely and confused. If she dares to confront him he rages and hurls verbal
Insults at her. His abuse may even become physical.
This couldn't possibly be the same man she fell in love with and she is right about that.
That man is an actor worthy of an Oscar and this is the real deal.
I don't envy you, I feel sorry for you. You deserve sooo much better of a man. Women need to support other women.
You are smart, beautiful and a wonderful person. You deserve to be with a man that is on your same level. Now wake up!
Throw him to the curb and reach for the stars, your stars.
Stop being "co-dependent" always traveling from relationship to relationship.
Your exposing your low self esteem and your insecurities. What, you can't exist without a man in your life??!!
Be strong pretty girl and dump that narcissist to the curb. Your successful, you deserve to be with someone as successful as you. You deserve soo much
Freedom is important to me
Nothing is worse than when I feel tied down
At this point in my life, I find I change jobs and places frequently because the thought of staying in one place unnerves me
(Truthfully, I'm in the process of writing a book
And the more experiences I have adds another chapter)
People see me as fun loving, and I am
I attempt to enjoy life to the full....
According to the motto:
"You only live once"
I unfortunately tend to attract less energetic people as friends and partners
Like moths to a flame, they see me as the light. Personality traits they never exhume
I have to be careful, these people drain me
I'm VERY curious and open about EVERYTHING new and I thrive on change
I'M A BREATH OF FRESH AIR
That's the problem
Most people look for the easy way out
Then complain when that doesn't work.
Then the stupidity continues
They will continue to do it over and over and over again???!!!!
Maybe you need to try a different path
Break your damn comfort zone
Instead of driving 3 miles away from your house drive 4!!!
See, you broke your first comfort zone
Instead of doing the laundry every Saturday, do it a Tuesday night...
Second comfort zone broken
Your getting healthier
Instead of washing the cars at home
Take them to a drive thru car wash
Now your on the road to FULL recovery
Break a huge comfort zone....
Go to New York City and be around 8 million of us!!!
You are doing sooo good
Wednesday, January 29, 2014
As you all know, I'm an advocate against abuse. After spending years with men that
Were the true definitions of a NARCSSIST
I belong to a support group that a friend who is a professional psychiatrist, she runs a wellness center.
She asked me to present a speech for her support group on narcissism. Knowing I had first hand real life experience with this. This was my speech.....
I spent one year with a NARCISSIST. In that year I thought I was building a close, loving relationship with another adult who
Shared the same life experiences as me. We were both newly divorced, trying to find our way in our new lives. We both had teenage children and trying to navigate that end to make sure the kids felt loved, secure and were as happy, as any kid could try to be when they lose their family
Unit. We both had gone to high school together and had the same lifetime friends. A lot of my girlfriends had married his high school friends.
None of these life similarities would matter to my narcissist. In that year I would live a lie. There would be absolutely
No bonding with me at all. To wake up and realize the person you've been spending day after day, night after night with had no emotional attachment to me, left me in a state of complete trauma. How could this be, I would ask myself over and over again. We aren't teenagers!
The new target was already picked out and waiting on my discard. I would be told, " Go on with your life I'm never coming back." At the time I was crushed beyond anything I had ever experienced before. How could someone that I had spent sooo much time with walk away so easily.
Left in complete bewilderment I would seek out help. And I'm glad that I did. I would learn through my help that I had encountered a narcissist and the trauma I was now living was that of being abused so silently for so long. The verbal, mental and sexual abuse I had encountered with this unhealthy person would take me awhile to get over. When your violated at a "Soul" core level it's not something that you get over in a few months. It's been 3 years and I'm now first able to come to terms with what happened to me.
I was violated by a complete narcissist.
Now years later, I realize I was given the GREATEST gift of all!
Now I am able to laugh and say, "Please tell me what I did to make you get out of my life and stop communicating with me?!
So I can keep doing it!"
Narc free for 3 years. He's now someone else's problem!
I'm free, free at last ! Xoxo
I got a standing ovation !!! :))))
I found a GREAT sight for further information for all who are trying to recover from the abuse of being in a relationship with a narcissus.
My recovery has been a blessing due to the people who have educated me.
They have OPENED my eyes to what a true blessing this was.
I would like to also extend a heartfelt THANK YOU to the target that was able to steal
My narcissus away from me. THANK YOU.
If it wouldn't had been for you coming into my narcs life I would have never gone onto a wonderful new life. Once again,
I thank you. You did me a HUGE favor. I deserve to be with someone soooo
Good luck, and GOD BLESS
The web sight is: www.melanietoniaevans.com
NARCSSIST abuse and recovery web sight
I thank you for dedicating a lot of real estate of working against me.
Your small mindedness did me a favor.
My life has been filled with nothing but positive affirmations since your departure.
Your "Scott Peterson" charming personality might fool some, but the wise see right through. A narcissist is NEVER
Accountable for their behavior and never have Epiphany's. I ask myself, " Who is that sad person, are we doing a story on ignorance?"
Does a narcissist ever have accountability for their behavior...
Or do they always justify it????
Do they ever analyze their life like most of us do....
And ask themselves.....
" Am I making the right decisions for everyone involved?"
Or is their life just run on
ME, MYSELF, AND I
And everyone else can just go to hell???
Is their reasoning always,
"It's my way or the highway"
I feel sad for these mentally unstable individuals
To go through life lacking
Empathy, compassion and remorse for no one else
Self gratification their only motivation in life
Look in your mirror
ARE YOU A NARCISSIST????
Tuesday, January 28, 2014
What do we wear
Here's the shoes we all own a pair of
We walk a lot it's gotta be comfortable
And Bo Bo's is the shoe of choice in NYC
Chuck Taylor's is their reall name
Or Converse sneakers
These are my very own pair!
Yes I have small feet, I'm a tiny girl
Size 5 1/2