Friday, April 25, 2014
I have a teenager
They should live on their own planet
And be put back into society around 25
There's just nooo brain!!!!
My teenager all he wants is food, money
And a car
If I would've married well
He would be in Switzerland at a boarding
School or with his nanny
Thursday, April 24, 2014
Tuesday, April 22, 2014
When you encounter total disrespect from another human
Remember, it's not you
It's the other person exposing their TRUE CHARACTER
Just remember, the universe puts us all where we need to be
Sometimes it takes years to see your true blessings
I dodged a bullet!
Thank you universe
She can have that!
Monday, April 21, 2014
A few months ago I was introduced to a great guy that works for our SS
Noooo, that does mean Nazi SS
That's code for our Secret Service
Yes, I'm dating a guy that protects our President
He's been ALL over the world, which I like. Meaning he's cultured
And diversified. He's also is well educated and has a good brain
On his head!
His good "Characater" is quit refreshing
We have a lot in common, which is important to me
He took me somewhere about a month ago
And he scared me as he pulled into this secret garage
His job intrigues me and I just love that he's well
I think it's going to be fun dating the spy.....
Saturday, April 19, 2014
Salon is a mad house
All the men getting their haircut
Women getting their cuts and colors
STOP THE MULLETS
My suburbia salon sees more clients with that....
My NYC salon we only have the business men working in the finance district
Or the bohemians
Everyone else is an aspiring artist
Or college student
NYU or Columbia or Hunter are the big colleges here in the city
They just do their own thing
Happy Easter everyone
Friday, April 18, 2014
Spend time with people who can recognize your worth
Don't stay in a relationship
Or surround yourself with people who are quick to judge you, degrade you, curse at you, verbally or mentally abuse you.
This is a reflection on them!
Know your self worth
You deserve better
And you will get it
I know it's Easter weekend but know one
Deserves to be "Nail to the Cross"
Thursday, April 17, 2014
Listen the #Narcissist is just completely
Unavailable for a healthy loving relationship or healthy interaction on any level. Don't cross them either! They will play the "Shame & Blame" you game! It's never their fault.... Good luck with that
As I stand behind my chair I just do hair
But that's not all I do
I'm a therapist as well
And everyone's talking
Love is a crazy thing
When all of us meet someone there needs to be a connection
Most of us get it, a feeling that this person
We are just starting to date are the one we
Have been waiting for all of our lives
After a few dates or a few weeks of dating
One can usually tell quickly if this person
Is a match for one self
Are there any "Red Flags"
Are you having "Gut" feelings there's something just..... Off??
I think one thing in common we all have
Is we all are looking for unconditional Love
Not everyone is capable of this
Especially a #Narcissist
They are sooo unavailable for healthy interaction and this includes LOVE
Wednesday, April 16, 2014
Tuesday, April 15, 2014
Every time I order any type of cream soup
I hear Nigel from the movie the Devil Wears Prada say, "cream soup, that's all fat!" Today I don't care! And I'm skinny so bit me.... Lol
I believe in the theory, there are no accidents in this universe
We all are to find our passion
Work it and be happy
That one mission that becomes our life Epiphany
That mission or passion about something
That really gets us excited about
That mission of some kind to fulfill at the moment we make the shift from nowhere
We all got to live out our inner calling
Even if it means we are not destine to be wealthy
I also let my children experience this
I don't demand that they do this, do that
I take a Free spirit approach to child rearing
They need to fumble, make mistakes
Pick themselves back up brush themselves off get back up
Just like I did
Living in experience is the best thing
Living out your inner dictates
I intuitively try to get everyone to see that
You have a choice about how we look at situations
Things aren't really as bad as always perceived
And most life's upsets can be turned around by laughing at our own faults, mistakes and our huge Egos rather being in the mind set of being upset and staying angry
Go ahead, Nail me to the cross
But I better never hear of your mistake
Oh what's that.....
I'm already hearing your imperfections
What's going on inside of us has a way
Of playing its way out into our lives...
Never can hold down into a committed relationships
Dissatisfied with everyone/everything
It's always someone else's fault, never yours
Am I pissing you off because YOU. Think I'm referring to YOU??!!!
Maybe I'm just putting the ideas in all our heads
I have to ask myself sometimes when I'm preaching about all this Narcissist stuff
Am I a Narcissist myself???!!!!!!
I can honestly answer that quickly....
Noooo I'm not...
Because I know when I'm wrong and you most certainly will get an apology !!
A narcissist will NEVER be able to say their sorry. Why should they. It's NEVER their fault!
Good luck with that
And when everything keeps failing in your life they still won't get it.....
They never do
Their are destined to continually have failed relationships
Can't offer positive affirmations
Nothing only negative
Stay clear of it
Fill your life with only people that are willing to go the long haul with you
Got your back
Love, like you and all your imperfections
Monday, April 14, 2014
Sunday, April 13, 2014
Ok here we go
The human brain is amazingly adaptable and capable with learning
Most of my x's usually lacking one like the
Tin Man in the Wizard Of Oz
One of the WORST things we can do for your partner and your relationship is to believe that your a know it all and actually understand how to make an intimate union work
More than half of us are divorced
Most of half of you men your wives didn't leave you for noooo reason or vice versa!!
Can we finally wake Sleeping Beauty up!!!
Or is it time to give Prince Harming the poison apple???
Why are we all failing at relationships
I didn't know it was against the law not to be PERFECT when it comes to the Game of Love?????
Some of you boasting how wonderful you are, your that guy that's sooo different
Then you too turn out to be put on the list with the rest of the tyrants
Well listen up Prince Harming
The TRADITIONAL rules for love are gone
Hopelessly outdated. The challenges of love in a rapidly changing world and culture has changed the old roles and added new normals
Pop-psychology is giving us more cliches
And contradictory advice
TRUELY what I've learned
The BIGGEST thing blocking us all from
Being able to learn how to love is
EGO EGO EGO EGO EGO EGO
None of us can simply be honest
We just don't know how to love someone!!
Lets take some time
Be in the moment
And lets relieve us all of this terrible burden love thrust upon us
Repeat the following out loud 3 x's
I DON'T KNOW WHAT THE HELL IM DOING WHEN IT COMES TO MAKING A MODERN RELATIONSHIP WORK!!!!
Can we ever be relieved of the burden of defending our egotistical preconceptions
Pride and our prejudice about how relationships should be
We all really need to use our intelligence and creativity When it comes to loving someone
The great sex dissipates
Then what are you left with
Isn't going to bring happiness
The only thing Cruella Di Vil
Is looking to get is your pension
And the dust over your grave has no sooner
Settled that loving thing you wanted sooo
Bad & brought home sooo many years ago shoves you 10 feet under
And has a new target within hours!!
Some women having this strategically down to as good
As the Battle of the Bulge was planned!
Ok, lets get back to this LOVE thing
The most loving thing we can say to our
TEACH ME HOW TO LOVE YOU AND I WILL
TEACH YOU HOW TO LOVE ME
Putting this into practice will surpass any of your session at your clinical psychologist, self-help books or marriage
Remember, I live through experience with counseling. Most of them are too busy telling us all what doesn't work rather than feeding us what will work for our relationship with our partners
MAKE IT EASY FOR YOUR PARTNER TO LOVE YOU!!!
And remember, there's nooo perfect relationship
They all require work and negotiation, trust and respect to be successful
No one wants to make it hard for us to love each other
Make it easy
Communicating with your partner will go a long way in establishing a safe and satisfying intimate relationship
Love works and looks a little different
With each partner. How to do it well
Is the lesson you must teach each other
Low self-esteem and not feeling "Good"
Enough about yourself can manifest in your behavior.
Those of you whom were raised poor or not as wealthy as other families might grow up to exhume
Exhuming you are better than everyone else
When in all reality
Your dying inside
Dying from not feeling "Good" enough!
So you buy the "Best" cars
You marry or date someone who "YOU" feel can boost your popularity in your community
You live in the "Right" neighborhood
When studied and analyzed
Most people born into money or had enough while growing up seem to not have these issues
They don't have to "Prove" to the world
Their better than anyone else
Have an EPIPHANY if you can
And take a look at what YOU exhume to
Bring your nose out of the clouds
Pull that stick out your a*****
Just get over yourself
We're not interested in your BMW
We don't care!
Your low self-esteem makes you obsessed with your "Image"
We are getting too old and wise
NO ONE CARES!!
Having a GOOD CHARACTER at this age is most important
When you die no one is going to remember you by if you had the most beautiful wife, expensive car or biggest house!
Your wife is going to age and her beauty will fade
Your BMW will eventually become worn and old
And that big beautiful house will become out dated
Now where's your self-esteem going to be
Your wife is UGLEY
Your car died
And that house you were sooo damn proud of is outdated?????
Wutcha gonna do
The best thing we all would like to see you
Just be yourself
Invest some money and time in YOURSELF
Get counseling, fix your feelings of inadequencey
It might change your life
Your annoying us
With your "Look at what I have attitude"
We're all unto you.....
We see you hiding behind that low self-esteem you really have from your childhood
Invest in your healing
It just might Rock your world
It did mine!
I ran into a husband and wife that I use to know from my married life.
Or should I say, my life before divorce
This lovely couple have been married for 30 some years. I know them from church.
Very strong faith and good character.
We struck a conversation about couples arguing, married or not the husband would
Reiterate my beliefs that is NOT healthy
For couples to NOT have disagreements.
Of coarse no argument should reach volatile levels, yes that's not healthy.
But couples have fights and disagreements and don't let anyone convince you that "They" don't argue
It's not normal
No ones life is that perfect
And I'm not saying fighting is ok
I'm saying its ok to agree to disagree