Thursday, March 27, 2014
I'm a hairstylist
The beauty industry is my home
So with that said, I take a lot of time
To be well groomed
What does that mean....
It means my nails are done a pedi is important and my body is waxed.
Thanks to my girl Carrie Bradshaw
And also spending years in the salon
Environment I've been waxing since the
But good old Carrie convinced most of you gals to get a bikini wax
Carrie would proclaim many years ago,
"I feel like I'm nothing but walking sex"
It was this famous statement that would launch many of you into the world of the "Brazilian wax"
We aren't cavemen anymore. All their hair was important for warmth. Keeping warm is no longer an issue. So get rid of it girls
Some of you aren't even aware it's sooo not in to have it??!!
Bare it all....
Besides, I'm about to meet my long distance boyfriend, seems like it's the perfect opportunity to see if grooming everything adds a little pep to my already
Wednesday, March 26, 2014
Tuesday, March 25, 2014
Let me tell you the real truth of what it's really like being a New York City hairdresser!!
It can Effen suck!!
First let me say
New York is very International anymore
There's not a lot of Americans running around this dang place.
Little Blonde, white Anglo-Saxon me
Is a foreigner in my own country here!!
The foreigners play a mmeeaannnnn
Fighting, pushing, spitting, cheating, lying
They will throw not only you under the bus,
But they want you thrown right into the
Marie Antoinette room!!
Where upon your arrival
Your head is permanently cut off!!
Beotch is nice in the concrete jungle
Take it as a compliment !!
It's sometimes the nicest thing you will
Get out of their mouths
Lets talk about their pride
Their all very proud of their countries
To a person from Brasilia it's not a
3rd world country!!
It the BEST country on the planet
Better than the good old USA
The Russians, lets talk about what it's like to work for the good old Russians!
Get over yourself
Let go of WW2
Just let it go
Stalin was a freakn
It's hell to pay here
Not all the time
If Henry the Eighth was here
Alive and kicking
He would fit right into
A New York City lifestyle
The saying is definitely true
"IF YOU CAN MAKE IT HERE, YOU CAN MAKE IT ANYWHERE"
God bless New York
I no longer like to fall in love
I have a trust issue
I'm not here to fix anyone
And I don't want to be your mommy!
I'm not even here to figure you out
If you need to be figured out, chased or fixed
Or need someone to perfect your business
I'm not your girl
You should have a brain to figure it out yourself....
I have to!
I wish you all the best, but simply cannot be involved---- I don't have the time, the energy or the inclination
Your a big boy and getting too old for this
I am older, wiser, seasoned
When you cross the right of passage bridge you no longer entertain the BS
I will tell you to keep it moving if I see any
I need to know you are capable and willing
To fill in your own without looking to me,
Alcohol, sex, porn, sports, gambling, flirting or any outside things to boost your damaged ego, low self-esteem
This isn't high school and we are not 16
So if you need to cheat, lie, just cause chaos keep it moving
Because I just don't need to entertain you
And your immature mind
It all just comes from a place within ourselves
How hard is it?!
To come together
Learn to deeply love each other??!!
Please remember, I need alone time
I'm fiercely independent
Have spent a lot of time alone after my divorce
Alone on that park bench in Battery Park City crying, dreaming, thinking, vegging
Trying to figure it all out
I need alone time
To read, go to the gym, do yoga, be with my kids, write, be with my friends
I don't feel it's good to be glued at the hips
There will be some days I will need more time away from you or less time, maybe if you really capture my heart I won't need any..... But then consider yourself lucky
Please remember this doesn't mean your not important to me or your annoying me, it's just that I've taken the last few years working on improving me, my heart, my soul. Taking the horribleness of all the insanity projected unto me by complete
Idiots, people with nooo substance only egos, worried only about their "Image"
Pathetic humans, conniving, misconstruing, not caring about anyone else but themselves.
I don't get starry eyed anymore and fall quickly
I'm not 16 and this isn't high school
You won't come before my kids
Because I'm a mature adult
And they are me and I am them
And this will always be
And this doesn't mean I don't care for you
You need to respect who I am
And what I aspire to be
I will always give you consideration of your time as well
I ask you this
Can we from here on in agree that our relationship is a no judgement zone
You are free to be 100% you
All the odd things we both will do
You washing the car every Sunday might
Drive me insane or hogging all the covers
Not taking into consideration I might be
Cold at night
These are things that are sure to surface
My corky ways, your anal stuff, your schedule, how we joke around, are funny,
Generous, affectionate and the wonderful things we do or we are.
Please don't ever hold back
Even a bit
Even when you think I'll be offended
Or that I will judge you
I will tell you this
You will be judged if you cross boundary lines, these shenanigans will no longer be tolerated with me
If you need to offend me or hurt me
Say your peace and we shall part ways
Don't ever think your getting me back if
You crossed me or wronged me
Your no longer worthy of me
If we are going to do this
Things will happen
We are not perfect
But if you TRUELY love me
No one, no matter what
Can come between us!
On that note
Because we are not perfect
And it's not normal not to fight
Whoever made that one up
Is an idiot !!!
And Doctor Spock was all wrong!!
His son committed suicide
It's suicide for a relationship to be
When we are not perfect
I still expect us to care for each other
Thoughtless words will be said
The bathroom will become dirty
I will eat a bag of pretzels
Or you will
I don't eat that much
But when this happens
Lets pause, breathe
Address the issue w/out judgement
And lets talk
It comes down to what we will tolerate
And if you really love someone
Don't make me waste my time or yours
I did that
A time taken away from me
We are not going to be perfect
If you think we will
Keep it moving
I'm not the girl for you!!!
My temper is like a thunderstorm
Usually short, comes on quick and leaves
Behind some wickedness, known to cause
But if you love me, we will get past it
We accept each other
There will be no stonewalling each other
Give space, love and don't fight dirty
Don't feed me any bullcrap about finding something better!
Every day as I stand behind my chair cutting hair I could easily replace you with something better if I soo choose to!
That gorgeous CEO who's always asking me out, the guy that has more money than you, a fabulous education, culture, diversity, worldliness.
Always ignored, because I only want you
No one could replace you....
I don't care about his money, his position, his looks I just want to be with you
I know I will be able to say "no thanks"
I have everything I need in my man and no one can come between us
3's a crowd in any relationship !!!
I want you to think
I'm beautifully flawed & hopelessly whimsical
Lets just be together
I will make you muffins
sit by your bonfire always marveled how you built a fire and knowing I could never
I will LUV you for your mind
I've had shallow, no substance
It was horrible!
I will cherish your humor, your wit, your swag, your down to earth happiness
Then I will go off into my own little world, with your presence somewhere near by
As we sit in the same room but in two different mind sets
I will know we are able to be
But be separate
You will tend to your kids needs, possibly
Helping them with a report, college stuff
I might write, read, help my kids as well
Maybe we will be quiet, but content
Later as we walk downtown and enjoy a drink and chat about our life in our high school, friends we have in common, our jobs, the city, Our time in Europe, our dreams, where we want to travel to,
Because you know we can talk about anything. Our own little world.
We will eventually walk home, touching hands occasionally because I'm fiercely
Independent and use to being alone. We will eventually be intimate, bonding us together, two people that just can't get enough of each other.
As we lay on the couch, I in your arms all
Snug and warm. You will fall fast asleep as I hear the tv playing a movie in the background I will watch you sleep and
Breath and marvel at how lucky I was to finally find someone like you.
If you don't mind, all I want to be is silly, happy. Can we just explore the world, and each other without judgement
I'm not looking for perfect, I'm looking for someone who is perfect for me.
Can we just explore the the world, each other, the city, can we make pasta and cookies and memories and love and a life that is full for us. Or a whole lot of I'm not sure yets.....
All I know it's taken me a long time to get to this place..... I'm ready to find out.
I don't want to be anyone's Rebound
I don't want to be second best
I don't want to be played
I don't want to be compared to any other
I don't want to be the girl your with
Prior to you getting married
Or staying with the next girl... Forever
I want to be just me in any relationship
Free to be who I am
I want you to be free who you are
I don't want to get the feelings there's
Someone else in the shadows
Or I won't invest my time
There's just no need to
I'll simply turn and walk away
Monday, March 24, 2014
Saturday, March 22, 2014
Let me say this, I hate rain!
And when it rains in this dang city
I have hell to pay!
Even in the summer it can be cold and damp
And there I am trudging through the dirty
Streets of Manhattan
Soak, cold and miserable
My only safety net is the NYC underground
But on a rainy day the New York subway system can also be victim to the rain
Yes, water coming in from above
Especially at 42 street, Port Authority
I bought a pair of Hunter Boots
Just like all the other smart girls have
We all wear them
Or our Doc Martins
We are outside walking
Exposed to all the elements of each passing season
I hate rain!!
Friday, March 21, 2014
Did the narcissist that abused you believe
People really liked them????
Mine did, he believes everyone likes him
And his new target is the most well liked around. Not!!
He so sick he believes he has the best girl in town.....
But we all know the truth
Did your narc admit to social issues??
Or socially backwards???
Possibly blaming it on "victim" scenario
YOU! For example!
Or of coarse there's the "sob" story
It's always someone else's fault
The narc that abused me
When people got to know him....
THEY DIDN'T LIKE HIM!!!
He had been fired from jobs, therapists,
In-laws couldn't stand him
And many in his social circle just find
Now, what is it your exactly missing
Out on by not having this vile person
In your life???
OH, ABSOLUTELY NOTHING
ENJOY YOUR WEEKEND
LIFE IS SOOO MUCH BETTER WITHOUT
Wednesday, March 19, 2014
Most #narcissist have that "chip" on their
Look at me....
Look at what I have, the most beautiful wife or girlfriend
The best car
The biggest house
It's all surface crap
To fill their low self esteem
Their dying inside
Feelings of inadequencey
Not good enough
Most likely born and raised very poor
From abusive tragic family circumstances
They long to crawl out of their mental hole of not feeling good about themselves
So they seek out what they feel is their
Arrival on the famous stage of life
"Look at me, look, look at what I have"
Oh hum, aren't they just pathetic ?!!
We who have educated ourselves on NPD
now find much amusement in their facade
And shallow existence.
Their fall from grace will sure to arrive
Karma is such a BEOTCH
So many of us coast through life, letting
It happen to us without giving it much thought to what lies ahead or where we are going.
The choices you make, make you.
It's important to have direction, to choose
A life of purpose & intentional growth.
Nothing could be more important than planning.
LIFE ISN'T A DRESS REHEARSAL; YOU
ONLY GET TO DO IT ONE TIME!
Did you ever notice how so few people
Can actually spit out the words.....
Amazing, they pull the injustices without
Why am I the only one on this planet
That can say these 2 simple words
Look, if I've done something wrong
I'm usually the first to admit I've wronged you and will let you know, "I'm sorry"
Even if it takes me years to have that epiphany!!
WOW! Does the Dynamite Bang!
Do you know how many times in my life
I have contacted someone and told them
How awful I feel that I mistreated them, wronged them, hurt them!!
There's a new person on my "I'M Sorry"
List, they will be getting a note very soon.
This person never did anything wrong to me, they helped me, were sweet and kind
And always there for me. I'm the one that
Needs to drop the "EGO" and send the note.
Is it that hard to say???????
Tuesday, March 18, 2014
When seeking out a good relationship for ourselves we must first recognize the relationship we seek
Bliss is delightful, but it is seldom a permanent condition
Moments of happiness and joy are to be treasured
But when they are counterpointed by stretches of despair or heartache or doubt
What sets the bar.
I know in my own life I let the wrong people infiltrate into my romantic relationships. Out of loneliness or despair.
I now am keenly aware I have choices and boundaries.
Lowering my standards has caused much
Drama, heartache, disappointments. These men will never be no more than rejects in society. Always causing problems. Always in denial, it's them, they will always play the blame game.
Try to recall those relationships that were
Most satisfying. Whether it was a close friend or romantic. These less than standard men in my life never had any friends, which should had thrown the "Red Flags" right away. It's not good not to have friends other than your significant other.
These satisfying, good healthy
Relationships will help us set the bar & boundaries to outline the parameters of what we need from significant relationships in our lives.
Don't turn a Blind Eye!
I now can see clearly and "Red Flags" are
Quickly seen on the service.
I've become acutely independent over the last few years and nothing about me is co-dependent. I don't " need" to be in a relationship to define" me.
I have plenty of friendships that fill the void of a romantic partnership.
Sometimes I believe my destiny was meant to be alone. Not finding the right man to stimulate my psyche, support my dreams, encourage my adventuresome attitude.
Most of my romantic life had been wasted on men who just can't live up to my standards.
As I enter the second half of my life
Can the Universe spin me into the direction
Of having a TRUELY fulfilling, stimulating life partner. We will see......
Monday, March 17, 2014
Have you ever been watching a movie
And the main character comes to the tragic part where someone dies or they lose
The person they love.......
They start to cry????
Sometimes you gotta runaway to see if
The person you love follows you.....
The sadness, the heartbreak of realizing
Their never coming
Is like watching that sad movie
When it comes to any kind of relationship the key components are trust, loyalty, sincerity.
When dating a Prince Harming you will receive none of these
There will only be a lot of real estate worked behind your back
A lot of conniving, mismanagement, and bad deals. Like a bad day on Wall Street I suppose.
The friend or partner shouldn't hold grudges against you after causing soo many shenanigans. Especially if you weren't the person to take the relationship to a toxic level.
You have every right to feel hurt, sadness, emotional pain after pouring in so much energy into a relationship where there was so little given back to you.
Having a high tolerance for bullsh***
Has got to end!
Learn to recognize the signs real quick
Are usually your gut instincts
Put the relationship up for sale
Let the new buyer have the pains of trying to remodel. All in all, it's just going to be a bad investment
There's no loss or gain with these toxic people
And Prince Harming can fool some of the people some of the time
But they can't fool all of the people all of the time
Remember, people don't change
So the people in Mr. Prince Harmings life
Aren't getting anything different than you did
Or their new friends
Put the sold sign out and walk away to a new wonderful piece of real estate
PS. Don't forget to throw the trash to the curb! Tehe
Rebuilding a clientele;
Lets talk about this
If your straight out of beauty school
Or just moved to a new salon and have no clientele this can be as depressing as walking the Appalachian Trail in the middle of the winter!!!
In New York City most salons have enough walk in on a daily bases you don't really need a clientele.
In suburbia America, where most people live a more routine, structured life
Building a clientele is hopeful
It can take up to 4-6 months
Or a good year before you start seeing requests
Your average new stylist to a shop
Making very little money at first
This can be discouraging and depressing
Yes, I know
Most Americans want to make a ton of money on the job
But our lives as a hairstylist isn't a salary position
We are starving artists at first
That unstable income life can cause
A lot of heartaches
Oh Hell, it's always an unstable life
But it's our passion
And I'd rather stand behind my chair making $25,000 than walk in your miserable shoes and do what your doing!
The highs and lows of the life of an Artist