THE PORN STAR

Science today is offering new insights into relationships, sexuality and the emotional bonding that coincides with both. Mature sexuality grows from and flourishes in a secure sense of attachment. 

Your partner needs to offer a sense of being "safe" in the relationship. 

Your not a porn star and if you are you need to be aware of it so you can press charges. Being raped is a serious thing in society and when you have a relationship that a partner never loved you or bonded with you  is a violation.  

Porn addiction is a perfect example of the consequences of cutting off sex from ATTACHMENT and that connection with your partner. 

SEX AND ATTACHMENT ARE MEANT  TO GO TOGETHER

A numbed out sexual response system resulting from obsessive use of porn. 

In the end, Internet porn devastates our capacity for close relationships and good sex. 

Porn devotees are left with a broken and fragmented sexuality, in which emotion and the erotic separate and never get integrated

Secure attachment allows us to engage fully in a sexual  experience.

A good relationship is where you feel entirely safe, cherished, and accepted. 

I would get none

It's just scary, no, it's devastatingly scary!!

And we were together day and night for a year. 

I was asked by my narcissist to be in a "committed" relationship. Ok. I was married for 20 years I know what a committed relationship is and what it needs to flourish. 

Lets talk about what a "Marriage" really means. 

Marriage allows FULL emotional commitment in two ways. It transfers attachment from ones parents now to your spouse. It also alloys anxiety about attachment and lays the foundation and groundwork for a long-term bond to grow. 

As a friend said to me, "Standing up in front of friends and family and putting a ring on each others finger is a statement of your intention to be this persons love and home." 

I know I wasn't asked to marry him, but he asked me to be in a committed relationship and we weren't young kids!

  But I was never made aware that we were not and the real estate worked behind my back is were the narcissist disorder would start to be exposed. 

Also the lack of my narcs formal bonding  scares everyone including my clinical psychologist. 

Sex is a very bonding form of love he would have no bonding with me. It makes me sick to think how I was violated down to my God given rights. 

I'm not a porn star and never agreed to perform as one for my narcissist. 

Now you all know why I can't find my heart. It was ripped out, stepped on, shot at, and then thrown past Pluto and told, " I don't give a f#%€> what you do, just get away from me, my new target is sooo much better than you!" 

I never agreed to be his porn star!