THE TIES THAT BIND

After my divorce it was a chance for me 

To start a new life 

I walked away from a 17 year marriage 

And was excited to start anew

Cutting ties with my past life would begin

I had to stay in the same school district

Because the kids were still in high school

But that didn't mean we had to live right around the Corner from each other 

I started cutting ties with things so we didn't have to be running into each other 

I was done!!

I had had enough!! 

And I was excited for my future

WOW! Now I could take time for me

And spoil my boys!

Cutting my ties ya'll means

I changed banks

Gyms

Churches

Restaurants 

Anything I could think of not to be in the same territory as him was very appealing to me

Anyway, it would open up new doors 

To new environments 

New people

And I'm not a stalker 

So I could have cared less about what he was doing 

Those first few months

All I did was relax

Yes, relax

Stress of the marriage was now 

Done

When I was married I lived my life 

Walking on egg shells

He was a yeller

Verbally abusive

And my days would start with being screamed at and my nights after a long day of work it would start all over again

So there I was 

For the next few months I just relaxed

It was beautiful

No one told me what to do or how to do it

And what kind of idiot I was 

And that all I was is a loser hairdresser 

You don't make any money 

Cutting ties I feel is a great thing after any 

Couple calls it quits

I don't need to see your UGLEY mug

And be exposed to your vile, insensitive personality no longer

I don't need to see you at the grocery store

The bank

The gym 

The gas station

Just stay away from me!

I'm trying to start a new life 

Some of my friends seem to be ok with all of this, running into their x's at all these places

I feel it's sort of creepy

?????

If you ended something why would you 

Stalk them at the gym, the grocery store

Etc....

Kinda odd, don't you think

After any break up its good to take some time alone and NOT jump back into another relationship

How can you go from being in love into someone else's arms sooo quick????

People are f#%^€ up

That's how

It's called co-dependency

My life after divorce has been quit a ride

I've been to Hell & back

But this year I've been divorced & single 

For 5 yrs

I've been happy and sad

But I really like who I have evolved into

The change up on me personally

Has been wonderful 

All the people I've met

The new places I've gone

The education I'm acquiring 

A new me

And guess what

I'm excited

And I'm glad I cut my ties

Now, I have an opportunity to get my boys settled into life

And there's no one special right now

But the dream of him is there

Wish me luck

The second time around 

Xoxo