Relationship of shared virtues is sooo important. My last Mr. Prince Harming
And I shared a lot of the same life similarities
But still were meaningless to him. We both were divorced, have children the same age, were married for a long time, went to high school together, shared the same lifetime friends, this would all be meaningless to my Prince Harming. He would prefer the older gal that switches relationships every 10 years, (so she's been married quite a few times according to common law marriage theory??) never married, no children etc.....
Anyway, I now know you want to put people in your life who challenge you, INSPIRE YOU, support you, stimulate you, root for you to grow in your highest potential, this helps nurture your soul.
I dated someone who offered nooo neutering at all!! In fact, Mr. Prince Harming would offer no encouragement or support for my ambitions, hopes and dreams. The biggest example of this was back during this time I was "thinking" about changing my career and going to culinary school. We would travel into Manhattan to look at a VERY prestigious culinary school. After taking the tour and talking to staff I was all BIG eyes, excited like a kid in a candy store.
While at lunch Mr. Prince Harmings x-wife
Would call. Do you think he would ignore her call?? Of coarse not, because my Mr. Prince Harming needed as many women in his life to "Feed" his ego that sooo needed to be stroked due to a life filled of low self esteem! If my Mr. Prince Harming would have been Mr. Prince Charming his character would have never tolerated such nonsense.
I don't bother with my ex-husband!! He's remarried, I'm the one who broke up the marriage and I know my reasonings.
I don't need to play these games that some of you ex-wives play. I don't need to still have "Control" over someone I no longer want to be with. He's someone else's problem! Just glad it's not mine! I feel the new gal deserves better but if that's her standards then she needs to pay her price in life that she so chooses to pay. I wish I could save her but the blind need to lead blind. I certainly did for wayyyyyy toooo long. God places us all where we are to be. Curse the evil day!! That I got cursed with this two "drag me down" charmers.
My story gets even worse with Mr. Prince Harming, on the commute home he would look at me and say, " if you do this I'm going to break up with you, I could never live here in New York City." Looking back I'll say it again.... HOW STUPID I WAS!! And I wasn't a young girl anymore. Here I was in my forties with a guy the same age with the mentality of a 16yr old boy!!
I should have parted ways with ignoramus the moment I stepped of the bus! God that old saying, "Love is blind"
Not only was I blind, but I was completely BRAIN DEAD!!! WTH!!!
I should have dropped this Hillbilly sooo many times! It just makes me sick. He's also some desperate girls problem as well.
If I was him, I would just want to stab myself in the eye with remorse on what I did to such a wonderful girl. To dump Cinderella for Cruella Da Vil must be hard to bare. But, narcissist have no empathy and only worry about their needs being met. I like to be chased and the one that's chasing me wins. OOHH PLEASE. Looking back I now thank this poor older gal for stealing away my Mr. Prince Harming. She obviously has lowered her standards, but what I hear, no one wants to date her because of "Her" charming personality. they are perfect for each other.
Lets get back to this instead of insulting those who just don't know better.
When you prioritize seeking a partner who supports you becoming your best self instead of chasing after someone's
Superficial sexy looks, charisma, or wealthiness.
The problem with my Mr. Prince Harming
Was he had his new target already picked out. There was a lot of real estate being worked behind my back. This had never happened to me in my whole dating career
And I soo didn't deserve it. But I now know I got to considered the source. Unhealthy individuals pull these sort of things. It's Gods way of saving me from a life of unhappiness. He knew I needed a much better man.
Yes, my Mr. Prince Harming worked a lot of real estate against me. He turned out to be, how should I say it, Don't-get-me-started lying cheater.
My lesson, a GOOD personality is never to be confused with a good character.
Charles Manson, Hitler, Stalin, Mussolini
were ALL very passionate, charismatic, intelligent, successful guys, but that doesn't mean you would have dated them!
Making good decisions in picking a partner will keep you from these lacking good character people. This wasn't just my boyfriend met someone else while with me story, yes, I know this happens in life. I'm a hairdresser. It's how this narcissist continued to stay with me and give me false hope that we were building something. And to think I use to think this true moron was the "Love" of my life. I've grown a lot through this harsh game I so didn't want to play. All I wanted was to leave a bad long term marriage and find my true Mr. Prince Charming. What i feel is sad that this man that was experiencing a divorce just like I was, would have nooo
Empathy or compassion for what I was going through and my plight in life at the time. That's where my counselor would step forward and educate me on the fact, I just had experienced a relationship with a narcissist. Twenty-four hours before this man would cheat on me he would look at me and say, " I'm falling madly in love with you"
Yes, maybe it wasn't even twenty-four hours. Looking back I feel sorry for myself.
I NEVER go after other women's men!
It's a respect I give to other women! GIRL CODE. This women felt no remorse obviously doing this to me as well. They deserve each other, once a cheat always a cheat.
I'm free to find someone so much better than These horrible personalities.
Didn't Adele get famous for getting cheated on??? Didn't J.K. Rowling's become the 12th wealthiest women in the United Kingdom after her divorce.
This hateful relationship has given me a platform to reach out to the world and write about tragic abusive relationships.
I'm telling you ALL, this could all had been prevented if I would have never been fooled, Loved Bombed, and mistreated, violated and abused. If I would have been aware of what narcissism was.
I want you all to know I did walk away!
I just should have stayed away. I wouldn't be dealing with the after affects of narcissism abuse.
Don't worry, as you follow me on this blog you already have seen my life changes as I get more and more educated
On making right life choices.
We will all find our soul mates and not Mr. Prince Harming causing you nothing but do me wrong!
GOD BLESS
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