3'S ALWAYS A CROWD

TINY BUDDHA

"By this means you will acquire the glory 

Of the whole world"

--- the emerald tablet(circa 5,000-3,000)

BACK TO THE BUSH

I'm a hairstylist

The beauty industry is my home

So with that said, I take a lot of time 

To be well groomed

What does that mean....

It means my nails are done a pedi is important and my body is waxed. 

Thanks to my girl Carrie Bradshaw

And also spending years in the salon 

Environment I've been waxing since the 

80's 

But good old Carrie convinced most of you gals to get a bikini wax

Carrie would proclaim many years ago,

"I feel like I'm nothing but walking sex"

It was this famous statement that would launch many of you into the world of the "Brazilian wax" 

We aren't cavemen anymore. All their hair was important for warmth. Keeping warm is no longer an issue. So get rid of it girls 

Some of you aren't even aware it's sooo not in to have it??!! 

Bare it all....

Besides, I'm about to meet my long distance boyfriend, seems like it's the perfect opportunity to see if grooming everything adds a little pep to my already 

Excited fling

Xoxo

NYC WEATHER FORECAST

APPLES, PEACHES, PUMPKIN PIE

You have a high tolerance for Bullsh****

We need to change that

And believe me

You were an exquisite  amount of BS

GOOD MORNING

Time to do some hair

THE DAY AND REAL LIFE OF A NEW YORK CITY HAIRDRESSER

Let me tell you the real truth of what it's really like being a New York City hairdresser!!

It can Effen suck!!

First let me say

New York is very International anymore

There's not a lot of Americans running around this dang place. 

Little Blonde, white Anglo-Saxon me

Is a foreigner in my own country here!!

Next thing

The foreigners play a mmeeaannnnn 

Game!!

These MFERS!!!

MEAN GAME!!

Fighting, pushing, spitting, cheating, lying

Etc....

They will throw not only you under the bus, 

But they want you thrown right into the 

Marie Antoinette room!!

Where upon your arrival

Your head is permanently cut off!!

Beotch is nice in the concrete jungle

Take it as a compliment !!

It's sometimes the nicest thing you will 

Get out of their mouths

Lets talk about their pride

Their all very proud of their countries 

To a person from Brasilia it's not a 

3rd world country!!

It the BEST country on the planet

Better than the good old USA

The Russians, lets talk about what it's like to work for the good old Russians!

HATEFUL

OMG!!!

Get over yourself 

Please

Let go of WW2

Just let it go

Stalin was a freakn 

Narcissist !!!

It's hell to pay here 

Sometimes 

Not all the time

Sometimes

If Henry the Eighth was here

Alive and kicking

He would fit right into 

A New York City lifestyle

The saying is definitely true

"IF YOU CAN MAKE IT HERE, YOU CAN MAKE IT ANYWHERE"

God bless New York 

Xoxo 

FEELINGS

This is how I feel right now

Everyone

Just leave me alone!!

BLONDES ONLY!

THE DISTRACTION

I no longer like to fall in love

I have a trust issue 

I'm not here to fix anyone

And I don't want to be your mommy!

I'm not even here to figure you out

If you need to be figured out, chased or fixed

Or need someone to perfect your business 

I'm not your girl

You should have a brain to figure it out yourself....

I have to!

I wish you all the best, but simply cannot be involved---- I don't have the time, the energy or the inclination 

Your a big boy and getting too old for this

Grow up!!

I am older, wiser, seasoned

When you cross the right of passage bridge you no longer entertain the BS

 I will tell you to keep it moving if I see any 

"Red Flags"

I need to know you are capable and willing 

To fill in your own without looking to me, 

Alcohol, sex, porn, sports, gambling, flirting or any outside things to boost your damaged ego, low self-esteem

This isn't high school and we are not 16

So if you need to cheat, lie, just cause chaos keep it moving

Because I just don't need to entertain you

And your immature mind

It all just comes from a place within ourselves

How hard is it?!

To come together

Be mature

Learn to deeply  love each other??!!

Please remember, I need alone time

I'm fiercely independent 

Have spent a lot of time alone after my divorce

Alone on that park bench in Battery Park City crying, dreaming, thinking, vegging

Trying to figure it all out

I need alone time

To read, go to the gym, do yoga, be with my kids, write, be with my friends

I don't feel it's good to be glued at the hips

There will be some days I will need more time away from you or less time, maybe if you really capture my heart I won't need any..... But then consider yourself lucky 

Please remember this doesn't mean your not important to me or your annoying me, it's just that I've taken the last few years working on improving me, my heart, my soul. Taking the horribleness of all the insanity projected unto  me by complete 

Idiots, people with nooo substance only egos, worried only about their "Image" 

Pathetic humans, conniving, misconstruing, not caring about anyone else but themselves. 

I don't get starry eyed anymore and fall quickly 

I'm not 16 and this isn't high school

You won't come before my kids

Because I'm a mature adult

And they are me and I am them 

And this will always be

And this doesn't mean I don't care for you

You need to respect who I am

And what I aspire to be

I will always give you consideration of your time as well

I ask you this

Can we from here on in agree that our relationship is a no judgement zone 

You are free to be 100% you

All the odd things we both will do

You washing the car every Sunday might 

Drive me insane or hogging all the covers 

Not taking into consideration I might be 

Cold at night

These are things that are sure to surface

My corky ways, your anal stuff, your schedule, how we joke around, are funny, 

Generous, affectionate and the wonderful things we do or we are. 

Please don't ever hold back

Even a bit

Even when you think I'll be offended

Or that I will judge you 

I will tell you this

You will be judged if you cross boundary lines, these shenanigans will no longer be tolerated with me 

If you need to offend me or hurt me

Say your peace and we shall part ways

But

Don't ever think your getting me back if 

You crossed me or wronged me 

Your no longer worthy of me

Look

If we are going to do this

Things will happen

We are not perfect

But if you TRUELY love me

No one, no matter what 

No one 

Can come between us!

On that note

Lets fight

Because we are not perfect

And it's not normal not to fight

Whoever made that one up

Is an idiot !!!

And Doctor Spock was all wrong!!

His son committed suicide

It's suicide for a relationship to be 

Perfect

When we are not perfect

I still expect us to care for each other 

Thoughtless words will be said

The bathroom will become dirty

I will eat a bag of pretzels 

Or you will

I don't eat that much

Haha 

But when this happens 

Lets pause, breathe

Address the issue w/out judgement 

And lets talk

It comes down to what we will tolerate

And if you really love someone 

Don't make me waste my time or yours 

I did that

It's horrible

A time taken away from me

Sooo selfishly 

We are not going to be perfect

If you think we will 

Keep it moving

I'm not the girl for you!!!

My temper is like a thunderstorm 

Usually short, comes on quick and leaves 

Behind some wickedness, known to cause 

Damage

But if you love me, we will get past it

We accept each other 

There will be no stonewalling each other

Give space, love and don't fight dirty

Don't feed me any bullcrap about finding something better!

Every day as I stand behind my chair cutting hair I could easily replace you with something better if I soo choose to!

That gorgeous CEO who's always asking me out, the guy that has more money than you, a fabulous education, culture, diversity, worldliness. 

Always ignored, because I only want you 

No one could replace you....

I don't care about his money, his position, his looks I just want to be with you 

I know I will be able to say "no thanks"

I have everything I need in my man and no one can come between us 

3's a crowd in any relationship !!!

I want you to think

I'm beautifully flawed & hopelessly whimsical

Lets just be together

I will make you muffins 

Dinner in 

sit by your bonfire always marveled how you built a fire and knowing I could never 

Do this

I will LUV you for your mind

I've had shallow, no substance

It was horrible!

I will cherish your humor, your wit, your swag, your down to earth happiness

Then I will go off into my own little world, with your presence somewhere near by

As we sit in the same room but in two different mind sets 

I will know we are able to be

But be separate 

You will tend to your kids needs, possibly 

Helping them with a report, college stuff

I might write, read, help my kids as well

Maybe we will be quiet, but content

Later as we walk downtown and enjoy a drink and chat about our life in our high school, friends we have in common, our jobs, the city, Our time in Europe, our dreams, where we want to travel to, 

Because you know we can talk about anything. Our own little world. 

We will eventually walk home, touching hands occasionally because I'm fiercely 

Independent and use to being alone. We will eventually be intimate, bonding us together, two people that just can't get enough of each other. 

As we lay on the couch, I in your arms all 

Snug and warm. You will fall fast asleep as I hear the tv playing a movie in the background I will watch you sleep and 

Breath and marvel at how lucky I was to finally find someone like you. 

If you don't mind, all I want to be is silly, happy. Can we just explore the world, and each other without judgement 

I'm not looking for perfect, I'm looking for someone who is perfect for me. 

Can we just explore the the world, each other, the city, can we make pasta and cookies and memories and love and a life that is full for us. Or a whole lot of I'm not sure yets.....

All I know it's taken me a long time to get to this place..... I'm ready to find out. 

Xoxo

THE REBOUND

I don't want to be anyone's Rebound

Ever again

I don't want to be second best

I don't want to be played

I don't want to be compared to any other 

Women 

I don't want to be the girl your with

Prior to you getting married

Or staying with the next girl... Forever

I want to be just me in any relationship

Free to be who I am

I want you to be free who you are

I don't want to get the feelings there's 

Someone else in the shadows

Or I won't invest my time

There's just no need to

I'll simply  turn and walk away

WELCOME TO NEW YORK

BLUE SKIES

VACATION

I'm going away for a few days

Till then.... 

I'll dream of my vacation 

RAINY DAYS IN NEW YORK

Let me say this, I hate rain!

And when it rains in this dang city

I have hell to pay!

Even in the summer it can be cold and damp

And there I am trudging through the dirty 

Streets of Manhattan

Soak, cold and miserable

My only safety net is the NYC underground

But on a rainy day the New York subway system can also be victim to the rain

Yes, water coming in from above

Especially at 42 street, Port Authority

Ugh

Rain......

I bought a pair of Hunter Boots

Just like all the other smart girls have

We all wear them

Or our Doc Martins

Either way 

We are outside walking

Exposed to all the elements of each passing season

But

I hate rain!!

IT'S FRIDAY

Off to Happy Hour

Enjoy

Xoxo

YOUR SO FAR AWAY

HAIR DIARIES

SOB STORY

Did the narcissist that abused you believe 

People really liked them????

Mine did, he believes everyone likes him 

And his new target is the  most well liked around. Not!!

He so sick he believes he has the best girl in town.....

But we all know the truth

Did your narc admit to social issues??

Being anti-social

Or socially backwards???

Noooo friends???

Possibly blaming it on "victim" scenario

YOU! For example!

Or of coarse there's the "sob" story

It's always someone else's fault 

The narc that abused me 

When people got to know him....

THEY DIDN'T LIKE HIM!!!

He had been fired from jobs, therapists, 

In-laws couldn't stand him

And many in his social circle just find 

Him...... Odd! 

Yes, odd!!

Now, what is it your exactly missing 

Out on by not having this vile person 

In your life???

OH, ABSOLUTELY NOTHING

ENJOY YOUR WEEKEND

LIFE IS SOOO MUCH BETTER WITHOUT 

YOUR NARC!!

CIAO

A GOOD MARRIAGE

CATCH 22

Calling all fathers!

Do ya think you can get this right?!

Ya, that's wut I thought.....

HOCUS POCUS

There is no shame 

In being attacked 

By an idiot

--author, a lifetime client

Xoxo

JAPANESE STREET STYLE

LOOK HOW LUCKY I AM!

Most #narcissist have that "chip" on their  

Shoulder

Look at me....

Look at what I have, the most beautiful wife or girlfriend

The best car

The biggest house

It's all surface crap

To fill their low self esteem

Their dying inside

Feelings of inadequencey 

Not good enough

Most likely born and raised very poor

From abusive tragic family circumstances 

They long to crawl out of their mental hole of not feeling good about themselves 

So they seek out what they feel is their 

Arrival on the famous stage of life

"Look at me, look, look at what I have"

Oh hum, aren't they just pathetic ?!!

We who have educated ourselves on NPD 

now find much amusement in their facade

And shallow existence. 

Their fall from grace will sure to arrive

Karma is such a BEOTCH

Isn't it???

Xoxo  

CHOICES WE MAKE

So many of us coast through life, letting 

It happen to us without giving it much thought to what lies ahead or where we are going. 

The choices you make, make you.

It's important to have direction, to choose 

A life of purpose & intentional growth. 

Nothing could be more important than planning. 

LIFE ISN'T A DRESS REHEARSAL;  YOU 

ONLY GET TO DO IT ONE TIME!

CRAZY LIBERALS

Annulling your ass

Your never going to get over each other

So fly out of here and deal with it!!

2 SIMPLE WORDS

Did you ever notice how so few people 

Can actually spit out the words.....

"I'm sorry"

Amazing, they pull the injustices without

Any accountability 

Why am I the only one on this planet

That can say these 2 simple words

Look, if I've done something wrong 

I'm usually the first to admit I've wronged you and will let you know, "I'm sorry"

Even if it takes me years to have that epiphany!!

WOW! Does the Dynamite Bang!

Do you know how many times in my life 

I have contacted someone and told them 

How awful I feel that I mistreated them, wronged them, hurt them!! 

There's a new person on my "I'M Sorry" 

List, they will be getting a note very soon. 

This person never did anything wrong to me, they helped me, were sweet and kind

And always there for me. I'm the one that 

Needs to drop the "EGO" and send the note. 

"I'M SORRY" 

Is it that hard to say???????

THE BOOGEYMAN

You confronted your Boogeyman 

You grabbed your Gremlin

See how important talking is!

You finally overcame the narcissistic 

Injury of that relationship

You experienced the empowerment of closure

Xoxo

ALL I'M HEARING

LUCKY IN LOVE

When seeking out a good relationship for ourselves we must first recognize the relationship we seek 

Bliss is delightful, but it is seldom a permanent condition

Moments of happiness and joy are to be treasured 

But when they are counterpointed by stretches of despair or heartache or doubt

What sets the bar. 

I know in my own life I let the wrong people infiltrate into my romantic relationships. Out of loneliness or despair.  

I now am keenly aware I have choices and boundaries. 

Lowering my standards has caused much 

Drama, heartache, disappointments. These men will never be no more than rejects in society. Always causing problems. Always in denial, it's them, they will always play the blame game. 

Try to recall those relationships that were 

Most satisfying. Whether it was a close friend or romantic. These less than standard men in my life never had any friends, which should had thrown the "Red Flags" right away. It's not good not to have friends other than your significant other. 

These satisfying, good healthy 

Relationships will help us set the bar & boundaries to outline the parameters of what we need from significant relationships in our lives. 

Don't turn a Blind Eye!

I now can see clearly and "Red Flags" are 

Quickly seen on the service.

I've become acutely independent over the last few years and nothing about me is co-dependent. I don't " need" to be in a relationship to define" me. 

I have plenty of friendships that fill the void of a romantic partnership.

Sometimes I believe my destiny was meant to be alone. Not finding the right man to stimulate my psyche, support my dreams, encourage my adventuresome attitude. 

Most of my romantic life had been wasted on men who just can't live up to my standards. 

As I enter the second half of my life

Can the Universe spin me into the direction 

Of having a TRUELY fulfilling, stimulating life partner. We will see......

WEEK ONE

Did you ever do this?!

Have an epiphany

Something changed your life

And you started over

Is this your first week

Of your new life???

I'VE BEEN THAT GIRL

Have you ever been watching a movie

And the main character comes to the tragic part where someone dies or they lose 

The person they love.......

They start to cry????

Sometimes you gotta runaway to see if 

The person you love follows you.....

The sadness, the heartbreak of realizing 

Their never coming

Is like watching that sad movie

A RELATIONSHIP FOR SALE

When it comes to any kind of relationship the key components are trust, loyalty, sincerity. 

When dating a Prince Harming you will receive none of these

There will only be a lot of real estate worked behind your back 

A lot of conniving, mismanagement, and bad deals. Like a bad day on Wall Street I suppose. 

The friend or partner shouldn't hold grudges against you after causing soo many shenanigans. Especially if you weren't the person to take the relationship to a toxic level. 

You have every right to feel hurt, sadness, emotional pain after pouring in so much energy into a relationship where there was so little given back to you. 

Having a high tolerance for bullsh*** 

Has got to end!

Learn to recognize the signs real quick 

Red Flags 

Are usually your gut instincts

Put the relationship up for sale

Let the new buyer have the pains of trying to remodel. All in all, it's just going to be a bad investment 

There's no loss or gain with these toxic people 

And Prince Harming can fool some of the people some of the time

But they can't fool all of the people all of the time 

Remember, people don't change 

So the people in Mr. Prince Harmings life 

Aren't getting anything different than you did 

Or their new friends 

Nothing changed

Put the sold sign out and walk away to a new wonderful piece of real estate 

PS. Don't forget to throw the trash to the curb! Tehe

Xoxo 

 

THE TRUE STORIES OF A HAIRDRESSER

Rebuilding a clientele;

Lets talk about this

If your straight out of beauty school

Or just moved to a new salon and have no clientele this can be as depressing as walking the Appalachian Trail in the middle of the winter!!!

In New York City most salons have enough walk in on a daily bases you don't really need a clientele. 

In suburbia America, where most people live a more routine, structured life 

Building a clientele is hopeful

But.....

It can take up to 4-6 months

Or a good year before you start seeing requests 

Your average new stylist to a shop

Making very little money at first 

This can be discouraging and depressing

Yes, I know

Most Americans want to make a ton of money on the job 

But our lives as a hairstylist isn't a salary position

We are starving artists at first 

That unstable income life can cause 

A lot of heartaches

Oh Hell, it's always an unstable life

But it's our passion

And I'd rather stand behind my chair making $25,000 than walk in your miserable shoes and do what your doing!

The highs and lows of the life of an Artist

 

Monday March 17th

This is how I feel today 

Just sick of this crappy weather!!

ALL DOLLED UP