Tuesday, January 14, 2014

SINGLE MOTHERHOOD

Life is easy for women who have no 
Children
All they have to worry about is themselves

Being a single mom is awesome
Because I know I love something 
More than myself
I'm know I'm strong enough to care for 
My kids
And I take pride in molding their lives
My kids are awesome
My kids are my buddies
My kids know I'm there for them when 
No one else is not 

As a divorced single mom
When I date, I take into consideration
My kids opinion on whom I'm dating
It has to work for the 3 of us 
I can't be sooo selfish and date 
Someone that my kids can't stand
Any good partner would want to 
Form a bond and learn to love my kids 
This person isn't just in my life 
This person could be forever in their lives
If my children aren't comfortable or dislike who I date to such an extreme
It's a SIGN
This isn't working or healthy for my family
As a mature adult I need to reevaluate 
What's going on
And even though I might have strong 
Feelings for this person I can't be 
"Love Blinded" 
If this person is not liked by my kids
It needs to end
Like my boys said to me one day
"If you move in with this guy or marry him
How are we EVER going to feel comfortable coming to our moms home? This guy is a jerk, he's not even nice to us!"
I heard the words, I heard their plight, I heard their pain! Your right guys, this has got to work for us ALL! Not just me

Just like in the movie, The Parent Trap
When his girlfriend looked at him and said.......
" it's either ME or them!"
The dad was mature and smart enough
To know his kids came first
"THEM" was his reply
May all of you who are divorced put only 
The right new partners in your kids lives
IT'S JUST NOT ABOUT YOU!!!!

Did you forget you were a family and married for a long time before you added
Such an egocentric person in your life????

Do what's right for your kids

I haven't dated in a while because my youngest son doesn't want me dating. 
That tells me as a mother he's not comfortable with it at this moment in his life and I need to make sure he is on the road to healing and recovery after our divorce.
This has affected the kids as well you idiots
Running around just worrying about your own Self satisfaction
Divorce has affected my children's lives tremendously and I need to respect that
And heal that. They don't need to pay witness to me acting like a dating teenager. Where I'm picking my boyfriend over them!
Grow up some of you.....
What.....
What's wrong 
To afraid to be alone ?????
AAAHHH 
Co-dependent are you

THINK OF THE KIDS
PUT THEM FIRST 
IT'S JUST NOT FAIR OR HEALTHY
TO DATE OR MARRY SOMEONE
YOUR KIDS HATE 
 


 

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