But most research shows the perpetrator
Is usually unaware of their actions & the Doctors are only helping victims....
Ok, here we go with the hard facts of what's its like being a victim of narcissistic abuse
I pray for your recovery
Not only do narcissists cheat on you....
They happily wave it in your face
They brag about it , trying to show the world how happy they are with their new
Conquest.
They carry none of the usual shame & quilt that comes with cheating. They are thrilled to be posting pictures & telling friends how happy they are.
My God, they really didn't cheat, you became everything they soo did not desire. How can I be accused when all that really happened was I fell for someone else. I'm not looking to be with anything soo undesirable such as your God awful personality!
This is the first signs of being "Loved Bombed"
Your fall from Grace
How did you go from being the most
Fabulous women they ever met
You, your the most beautiful girl I've ever
Been with, exciting, energetic, fun....
I'm madly in love with you......
People with narcissistic behavior have a sense of entitlement that allows them to break the rules of society. They believe that the laws do not apply to them & feel no remorse when they get caught. If you are dating one you will most likely be told, " I'm not married to you, how dare you keep me from what I want to do"
????????
If you thought you were in a committed relationship with this psychopath think again. The street is one way Hun with this individual and the head on crash has now occurred
They are guilty of the most horrid offenses & abuse. Verbal or mental or physical
They usually always have their next target picked out before leaving the relationship with you. Of coarse, because these unhealthy individuals are usually co-dependent & in need of constant supply
They will do a convincing job of making you look like you are crazy or unstable
Remember, everything you do from here on in is being judged & analyzed. The bliss of the relationship now channels into you are all wrong for me mode.
The new girl is just perfect
When called out, they get evasive, lie, cheat or get angry
They will have little or no remorse for the pain they now spew onto you
They are only angry that they did not get away with their behavior
Why does it take soo long to get over a psychopath/narcissist
In a narcissistic mind, there is a gap between the "idealistic" love & the actual day to day dealings with a partner. They long for symbiosis
But they fear DRAMA, & are traumatized by their partner. They seek refuge in being seen as the GOOD GUY
and craze approval & recognition
They need to be fed with constant affirmations, probably which they did not receive in their childhood from abusive parents or parent
The need for their image always being fed is great.....
They will always strive to be the best
Athlete, in their work, their homes will be the epitome of perfection, and long to be great lovers. Sexuality being their top intuitive, watching porn to study how to pleasure their partners to make them feel like no other lover has been able to feed them this much pleasure.
Did you notice the sickness yet......
When someone puts the brakes on their unhealthy, abusive behavior, they become tyrants.
If you do put the breaks on, be ready to be discarded quickly. These sort of characters have no room in their lives to be accountable or called out on their behavior.
If and when you are tossed aside, their last words will never have anything to do with the loss of a long term relationship...
It will only be, "I'll always remember the great sex" a psychopath has no empathy or compassion or understandings of a true long term relationships. You were just a good f....k for the allotted time.
Now discarded as quickly as an old pair of shoes, you are left in complete bewilderment on what the hell just hit me!!!
Yes my love, it was bigger than a Mac Truck!!! You were just run over by every damn truck in the plant!!!
I'm sorry for your pain, but are these words your life??????
They rarely admit to faults in themselves
And are always right & others wrong. Even if they have a 3rd grade I.Q
They usually verbally abuse or Mind Fuck their partners & children without seeing the pain they cause as they see that the person deserves the abuse they dish out
Short term gratification is what they seek
Lying, distortion of reality is considered fair game to shut the other person down
Criticism of their behavior causes them to switch into defensiveness & become disenchanted with you
Sooo egocentric they will put blame onto you. Pointing out all that is wrong with you
Most narcissistic, sociopath, addictive personality disorders have many common traits.
Self-centredness being the main denominator. My research concluded that most of these people are male. Usually these predators will gravitate to very empathetic women. The victims tend to fall for their "charm"
Since these character traits are on the rise when you first start dating someone you need to be aware & not to be blinded into "love bliss" usually within a few weeks of meeting someone you can tell if you are compatible.
It doesn't hurt at anytime in a relationship, if you are together 2 months, 2 years, or 10yrs to take a step back, breath, analyze what's going on. Is this working for you, me, and if either of you have kids.
My heart goes out to you all who have experienced abuse at this level, or if I just made you have an EPIPHANY that you are in this dangerous relationship.
I have experienced this first hand & now with my experience behind me I want to empower all to think about who you are dating, or married to. Abuse is abuse no matter what form it comes in! No one deserves it or ask for it. I certainly didn't. I thought I was with someone that would love and protect me. I sadly received neither. Till this day I am still abused. The difference now, I'm empowered with help from support groups & friends that paid witness to my demise. I go to lectures, classes & reach out to help all the meeees of the world. Men & women are victims to this. These hurtful blows are as bad as being servely beaten.
The narcissist will move on like you never existed.
Maintain healthy boundaries with whom you are dating. No one should keep you from spending time with friends or family. Your freedom, hopes, dreams should be lovingly supported. A good partner only offers support & encouragement. A damaged soul will only discourage you.
And last but not least, if he never sees a future with you......
I'm sorry to tell you, it's time to walk away
A boy will play house......
A man will want to marry you.....
AND REMEMBER, YOU DESERVE SOO MUCH BETTER THAN THIS FLAT TIRE
GOD BLESS YOU ON YOUR JOURNEY FOR LOVE
XOXO
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