I'M JUST SCARED

When my narcissist that abused me enters the room the theme song to Jaws starts playing!

GDNITE NEW YORK

SUPPORTING WOMEN

Women need to learn to support other women!!!

We need to stop working against each other

MY DREAM JOB

My dream job would be driving the karma bus

FOOTBALL COMES TO TIME SQUARE

ARE YOU CO-DEPENDENT

Co-dependent people THINK their life is defined by another person. Those of us with a healthy mind know this is soo not true! I'm only enriching my own life and if I'm with someone and their good for me, 

Their enhancing mine. I said, if their good for me......

EMPTY SPACE

Your brain is the only empty space

Life of the stupid divorcee's

THE NIGHTMARE

Your a nightmare

Counseling wouldn't even help you

You have co-dependent issues

O.C.D. Issues

And you rather ruin your relationship with your children than lose the person your with!

You are sooo mentally unhealthy

It's ALL about you

It always was

Screw everyone else huh???

Ya, that's a healthy mindset

Karma is going to be your biggest bitch

Next to your already ignorant brain

Your just stupid

Someone mentally well would say

"This isn't working for my kids, and they come first!" 

That theory you have, " the kids are going to be gone soon"

That's insane, your children are yours for life! 

You are soo mentally unhealthy 

Your co-dependency has ruined your 

Relationship with your own children

They don't even want to be around your significant other!

Grow up!!

Get mentally healthy 

How dreadful for who your with to know 

Your children can't stand her

I wouldn't even want to date someone who's kids didn't like me

I would know it's just not right

But Po-Dunk ignorance is bliss

And watching your stupidity unfold is very entertaining

You should be embarrassed 

I'm embarrassed over something's  I've done

But I knew I needed to do a change up and fix it

I'm not perfect, but I'm not in denial over my imperfections! I would be the first person to admit them!

Ya, I fugged up, but I'm working on fixing 

It....

That's someone who is mentally healthy 

PUT YOUR KIDS FIRST!!! NOT YOURSELF!!

Narcissism at its best, ya YOU!!!!

THE HAIRDRESSER'S STORY

This story is going to infuriate ever hairstylist on the planet ok here we go...

  I have an X that tells me verbally abusive statements like this one, "All you are is a loser hairdresser" Ya, really! This person doesn't even have a JOB!!! How about this all you wonderful stylist in the world!

Someone is telling us ALL we are all losers I guess!! We will forgive ignorance and write this off as morons just need to KEEP their mouths shut!! I love being a hairdresser, it's my life. I don't want to Ever do anything else!! This person can shuv it, WE LOVE WHAT WE DO!!!! 

I hope this persons hairdresser finds out about this theory the client has and gives this close minded ninny one bad haircut!

Or throws them to the curb. Sorry, I'm not desperate for your money! Lol

GOD BLESS

OBSESSIVE COMPULSIVE DISORDER

Lets discuss this

The other day in the salon my client told me she had an x that was O.C.D. With her. 

Listen!! This is a VERY scary thing!

This is not to be taken lightly. When someone is O.C.D. With you it can be down right DANGEROUS!! NOOOO mentally healthy adult acts like this. No one should stalk you, be sooo obsessed their hiring private investigators to find things out about you etc.... 

   Not one of us has to validate our lives to anyone. No one is perfect and we all make mistakes in life. If your not making mistakes your not growing and learning. 

  O.C.D. Is a dangerous unhealthy game to play. So stop the stalking and get help!

Seriously, please get help. If your sooo happy in your new life you don't need to obsess over someone in your past. 

   There's your answer, your not happy in your new life!!!  Your facade will crumble, 

Please get some counseling.  

MY LIFE AROUND NEW YORK

LOVE IN THE AFTERNOON

We should all be lucky to go home to this every night after a long day at work!

Meow

YOUR LEGACY

You have sealed your legacy in my life

Yes, only you are responsible for all this

I shouldered the blame for way to long

When I was taught to release it 

It opened a world of happiness

I now stand behind my chair

Just like every other hairdresser

And take pride in what I do

I ask you, " What is it YOU exactly do" 

That's what I thought

Good luck with that

GOD BLESS

WHO'S LAUGHING NOW

I told you I would get the last laugh 

You can't help but to feel sorry for the new person. 

As deluded as the new supply is, your heart breaks for them. You know the story all too well. 

  He comes on strong, with flowers and flattery. He wins you over by saying things like, " I've never dated anyone as beautiful as you" or "sex has never been this great"

She can't believe her luck and often tells him so.(I use to say those exact words, how did I get soo lucky. That turned out to be a nitemare!)  

  This fills him with smugness because he knows he has her right where  he wants her. 

  It's at this point he can drop the pretense

And let his true self out. It is EXHAUSTING for him to pretend to be something he is not, and the sooner he has her hooked the better. 

  While she is head over heals in love with 

The "Image" of a man who doesn't exist

The abusive behavior will start. Perhaps it will be about her appearance. Small jabs will start, "your wearing outfits that are exposing too much of your beautiful body"

" I don't want someone stealing you away from me" but she should be grateful that he still loves you anyway.

   He now becomes distance and aloof, she 

Becomes lonely and confused. If she dares to confront him he rages and hurls verbal

Insults at her. His abuse may even become physical. 

  This couldn't possibly be the same man she fell in love with and she is right about that. 

   That man is an actor worthy of an Oscar and this is the real deal. 

  I don't envy you, I feel sorry for you. You deserve sooo much better of a man. Women need to support other women. 

  You are smart, beautiful and a wonderful person. You deserve to be with a man that is on your same level. Now wake up!

Throw him to the curb and reach for the stars, your stars. 

  Stop being "co-dependent" always traveling from relationship to relationship.

  Your exposing your low self esteem and your insecurities. What, you can't exist without a man in your life??!! 

  Be strong pretty girl and dump that narcissist to the curb. Your successful, you deserve to be with someone as successful as you. You deserve soo much 

Better. 

Xoxo

A LITTLE SPANISH

Jajajajaja, comparterlo para que tus

Amigos  se rian

HELLO IT'S ME

Freedom loving

Freedom is important to me

Nothing is worse than when I feel tied down 

At this point in my life, I find I change jobs and places frequently because the thought of staying in one place unnerves me

(Truthfully, I'm in the process of writing a book 

And the more experiences I have adds another chapter)

People see me as fun loving, and I am

I attempt to enjoy life to the full....

According to the motto:

"You only live once"

I unfortunately tend to attract less energetic people as friends and partners

Like moths to a flame, they see me as the light. Personality traits they never exhume

I have to be careful, these people drain me

I'm VERY curious and open about EVERYTHING new and I thrive on change

Quite simply....

I'M A BREATH OF FRESH AIR

BAD CHOICE

Never piss your stylist off

I can ruin you in just a few minutes

PETER PAN SYNDROME

It takes courage to grow up

And become who you really are

--E.E.cummings

DEAD END STREETS

It's the obstacles that really teach us the lessons. 

I've had MANY and believe me

Some almost took me out of the game

--J.B.

EASY WAY OUT

That's the problem

Most people look for the easy way out

Then complain when that doesn't work.

Then the stupidity continues

They will continue to do it over and over and over again???!!!!

Wake up!!

Maybe you need to try a different path

Break your damn comfort zone

Instead of driving 3 miles away from your house drive 4!!!

WOW....

See, you broke your first comfort zone

Instead of doing the laundry every Saturday, do it a Tuesday night...

WOW!!!

Second comfort zone broken

Your getting healthier

Instead of washing the cars at home

Take them to a drive thru car wash

WOW!! 

Now your on the road to FULL recovery

Have fun

Break a huge comfort zone....

Go to New York City and be around 8 million of us!!!

WOW!

You are doing sooo good 

Enjoy

Ciao  

SHOP GIRL

Had a great day in the salon!

I just love all my clients

I just love being a hairdresser!!

Xoxo

I HAVE A DREAM

THE FINAL SPEECH

As you all know, I'm an advocate against abuse. After spending years with men that 

Were the true definitions of a NARCSSIST 

I belong to a support group that a friend who is a professional psychiatrist, she runs a wellness center. 

   She asked me to present a speech for her support group on narcissism. Knowing I had first hand real life experience with this. This was my speech.....

  I spent one year with a NARCISSIST.  In that year I thought I was building a close, loving relationship with another adult who 

Shared the same life experiences as me. We were both newly divorced, trying to find our way in our new lives. We both had teenage children and trying to navigate that end to make sure the kids felt loved, secure and were as happy, as any kid could try to be when they lose their family 

Unit. We both had gone to high school together and had the same lifetime friends. A lot of my girlfriends had married his high school friends. 

   None of these life similarities would matter to my narcissist. In that year I would live a lie. There would be absolutely 

No bonding with me at all. To wake up and realize the person you've been spending day after day, night after night with had no emotional attachment to me, left me in  a state of complete trauma. How could this be, I would ask myself over and over again. We aren't teenagers! 

   The new target was already picked out and waiting on my discard. I would be told, " Go on with your life I'm never coming back." At the time I was crushed beyond anything I had ever experienced before. How could someone that I had spent sooo much time with walk away so easily. 

  Left in complete bewilderment I would seek out help. And I'm glad that I did. I would learn through my help that I had encountered a narcissist and the trauma I was now living was that of being abused so silently for so long. The verbal, mental and sexual abuse I had encountered with this unhealthy person would take me awhile to get over. When your violated at a "Soul" core level it's not something that you get over in a few months. It's been 3 years and I'm now first able to come to terms with what happened to me. 

   I was violated by a complete narcissist.

Now years later, I realize I was given the GREATEST gift of all!

   Now I am able to laugh and say, "Please tell me what I did to make you get out of my life and stop communicating with me?!

So I can keep doing it!" 

   Narc free for 3 years. He's now someone else's problem!

  I'm free, free at last ! Xoxo

I got a standing ovation !!! :))))

NARCISSIST ABUSE

I found a GREAT sight for further information for all who are trying to recover from the abuse of being in a relationship with a narcissus. 

  My recovery has been a blessing due to the people who have educated me. 

They have OPENED my eyes to what a true blessing this was. 

  I would like to also extend a heartfelt THANK YOU to the target that was able to steal 

My narcissus away from me. THANK YOU.

  If it wouldn't had  been for you coming into my narcs life I would have never gone onto a wonderful new life. Once again,

I thank you.  You did me a HUGE favor. I deserve to be with someone soooo

Much better. 

  Good luck, and GOD BLESS

The web sight is: www.melanietoniaevans.com

NARCSSIST abuse and recovery web sight

Xoxo

LIFE OF A DIVORCEE

I thank you for dedicating a lot of real estate of working against me.

Your small mindedness did me a favor.

My life has been filled with nothing but positive affirmations since your departure.

Your "Scott Peterson" charming personality might fool some, but the wise see right through. A narcissist is NEVER

Accountable for their behavior and never have Epiphany's. I ask myself, " Who is that sad person, are we doing a story on ignorance?"

THAT OLD SAYING

If it ain't broke don't fix it

-- spoken by a waitress 

ACCOUNABILITY

Does a narcissist ever have accountability for their behavior...

Or do they always justify it????

Do they ever analyze their life like most of us do....

And ask themselves.....

" Am I making the right decisions for everyone involved?"

Or is their life just run on 

ME, MYSELF, AND I

And everyone else can just go to hell???

Is their reasoning always,

"It's my way or the highway"

I feel sad for these mentally unstable individuals 

To go through life lacking

Empathy, compassion and remorse for no one else

Self gratification their only motivation in life

Ask yourself......

Look in your mirror

ARE YOU A NARCISSIST????

WUT NYC CHICKAS WEAR

What do we wear

Here's the shoes we all own a pair of

We walk a lot it's gotta be comfortable

And Bo Bo's is the shoe of choice in NYC 

Chuck Taylor's is their reall name 

Or Converse sneakers

These are my very own pair!

Yes I have small feet, I'm a tiny girl

Size 5 1/2 

Ciao 

SOME MICRO-FASHION

I'M TOO SKINNY

THE RIGHT DECISION

You have made the right decisions

Now keep running with that 

Going to New York was the best decision 

You ever made in your life 

Now, go to London

Then go to Paris

No regrets

You deserve ALL the best